Do you ever struggle to give each child individual attention? I know I do! I am always scouring blogs and Pinterest to get ideas from other mamas on how they balance large family living.
In a perfect world EVERY DAY I would cover all these bases
- Give each child individual time
- Make sure I hug and kiss each kiddo
- Make sure I intentionally give them words of affirmation
- Read aloud with the littles /read aloud to the bigs
- Give each child an individual date a month
But to be completely honest, there are many days where we go from one thing to another and I feel like I am parenting them as a group and not individuals. I feel super bad about that , but have come up with a wonderful solution to giving them a special day EACH WEEK , just for them! I was so inspired by this this post at theunlikelyhomeschool.com. My husband and I discussed it and came up with our own version called “kid of the day”.
Kid of the day is simple and we LOVE IT! Each week, each child gets assigned a day. I do it from oldest to youngest. So my oldest child gets Monday and so on and so on. When you are kid of the day you get special privileges. The McFalls family kid of the day privileges look something like this:
- You get to pick anything that is on the television that day ( hands down, that kid gets to pick!)
- You get to pick where you are sitting at the dinner table.
- You get to help cook all the meals ( Just you, no sibling interference!)
- You get to go get the mail. ( I don’t know why but this is ALWAYS a fight at our home, so I integrated it into a kid of the day privilege)
- You get to set the table and design the centerpiece if you want.
Basically, whatever I am doing, I ask the kid of the day to help me. It is wonderful because I know that each child , each week gets to have some “just me” time. I still try to hit the daily goals for making them feel special ( word of affirmation, hugs and kisses, individual time). I now have the extra security in knowing that they are also getting a day each week of one on one time.
Parenting a larger than average family can be challenging, but a creative, devoted mama can work magic! My ultimate goal is to make every child feel like an only child, even for a little bit. This is definitely an area I struggle in ,hands down. I am a work in progress and trying my best at this mama thing. I know personally, everyone wants to feel validated, special and like they are being heard. I hope implementing kid of the day can help me meet these goals.
Do you struggle with giving each child individual time? What do you do to make each child feel special? Leave me a comment.